The Young and Restless

Somebody left me in thought about parent/child communication. Or rather lack of communication.

Youth in general do not tell their parents about their private lives, especially boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes due to their parents wanting them to concentrate on their studies and such. I can understand their fear. I suppose the parents are to be blamed for any miscommunication or lack of it they create between them and their kids.

I will want my kids to tell me if they have a new boyfriend. Not that I want to control them but just wanting to be updated. Afterall, I care for them. I feel it is better for the parent to guide their kids. Sometimes they may want a listening ear, and if they have your approval, they may approach you if they encounter any problem. I want to be there for them in their times of need.

I know that wanting to be updated can be misinterpreted to mean to control. It happens among friends too. I will always respect others privacy. I just hope that the people I care, whether family or friends, will see that I all I want is to know what is happening. To be updated on their lives don't have to mean wanting to control their lives. It helps me to know them better. And helps me to care for them.

Life is complicated. It don't have to be, if only everyone is given a chance to be understood. Sometimes one's action only serve to be misinterpreted by others. And misunderstanding leads to breakdown and breakup. A pity!

Pity and sad!!